2. 未必都背着电脑，但随身数码产品一定很多而且 型号很新，比如掌上电脑\智能手机\mp3\mp4\psp\游戏机之类，他们如果不在眯着眼打盹，就一定在摆弄这些数码产品

 

 

   每天清晨，当地铁 2号线穿过黄浦江，在车厢里便随处可见这样一群男青年：背着黑色电脑包，穿着不知品牌的深色夹克，头发有些乱，眼睛有些肿———有人把这时的地铁称为“张江专列”。
    张江高科技园区，集中了大量软件、半导体、医药公司，有超过 6万多名年轻人每天在这里上下班，男人，占了绝大多数。
    在这个“白骨精”（白领、骨干、精英）女人鼓吹“好女愁嫁”的年代里，这群“园区男”却在“深闺”里过着深居简出的生活。
    他们绝大多数有理工科本科以上学历，领一份尚且不错的薪水；经历过 1次学生时代的爱情，参加过 2次各种名目的“集体相亲”，至少被老妈安排赴过 3次以上的传统相亲……，然而，种种努力，至今未果。    园区团委书记俞博文用“单纯”、“可爱”，“一个个仿佛还在大学时代”、“工作勤奋”、“生活简单”来形容这些男生，尤其突出的一条是“不善于和女孩子打交道”。

　　只见存折上的数目天天在涨

　　早上7点半，小凡准时站在五角场大桥五线站牌下。
　　从他的住处到张江，大桥五线是惟一的公交车。不少外地同事把房子租到离公司只有10分钟车程的张江镇，可他不愿意，“公司那一带已经什么都没有了，再住在那里，完全不觉得自己是在上海。”他宁可住在五角场，与两个同学一起合租一套三室一厅，离他毕业的大学不远。
　　但大桥五线是那样一辆令人胸闷的公交车！半小时一班，好不容易挤上去，大家前胸贴后背，一车张江的男男女女，有人睡觉，有人化妆，五角场蛋饼的香气混着人气弥漫开来。不是不可以拼车，张江的论坛上也热火朝天讨论过一阵，但小凡出一趟“短差”就要半个月，拼车“搭子”总也固定不下来，只得作罢。
　　小凡在一家著名IT软件公司任职，同事大都名校毕业。薪水不错，应届生进门就拿5500元月薪。但公司好，业绩高，压力自然也大。作为软件工程师，小凡工作的一大部分，就是飞去外地，帮客户现场调试安装软件。短则三五天，长则半年。出差补贴是每天120元，出租车票另报。3年做下来，存折上的数字渐长，他也不爱乱花钱，总是说：“也是辛苦钱，趁年轻多攒点，不然怎么买得起上海的房子？”
　　如果交了女朋友，也可以向领导要求少出差，不过前提是“有人愿意协调”。好在大家都是男人，到了这时，总有单身男挺身而出，小凡就是这样的模范。那些结了婚的人，出差可免，加班就难逃了，有一个同事至今过着“周末夫妻”的生活———自己租房住在张江，老婆住在闸北，等到周末才能回家团聚。

　　园区千人大食堂

　　中午一过12点，平时见不到人的园区路上会陆陆续续出现一些挂着公司吊牌的年轻人，大家短则百米，长则数百米地奔向各处吃饭。这天，小凡去的是居里路上的软件园食堂。一个大得能容下近千人的公共食堂。但饭菜味道委实不行，他们常常更换午饭地点，比如，前段时常去附近的美术学院———可也看不到几个美女，多的仍旧是一张张“张江面孔”。还有人吃腻了食堂的“三板斧”，干脆跑去张江地铁口买个蛋饼。
　　张江地铁站旁林立的餐馆，是几个月前才刚开出来的。此前，除了为数有限的几家食堂，整个张江几乎没有吃东西的地方。有一次，小凡从客户那里回公司已是下午3点，他沿着宽阔的马路走啊走，最终奇迹般地找到一间小面馆，炸酱面要价18元一碗，玻璃瓶装的可乐3元一瓶，“比风景区还贵。”
　　吃完饭，也可以去园区的“贝尔湖”溜达一圈，这个巨大的人工湖边，有可以晒到太阳的大草坪，但小凡通常很自觉地不去：“那里留给恋人用”。

　　一个人的圣诞节

　　这一天，小凡的工作结束得比较早，6点钟下了班，被同事拉着去新天地泡吧。信不信由你，这是他的“处女泡”，所以小凡显得相当活泼兴奋。
　　“我起码比我的同学好，他毕业后进了医院，周围全是漂亮小护士，起先还有热心大姐张罗着牵线搭桥，可每次都很快被女孩打回票，时间一长，大姐看见他当作不认识。为什么？因为他根本不知道该带女孩子去哪里！”小凡跟他建议说，“去环艺看电影吧！”他问，环艺在哪里？告诉他在梅龙镇，他又问，梅龙镇在哪里？南京西路陕西路，那又是在哪里？“他只认得两个地方，一个叫家，一个叫医院，天天骑自行车上下班，连地铁都不知道怎么坐……”
　　也许是酒精上头，回到家，小凡觉得有点累。“上班时一直对着电脑，即使准时下班，也经常觉得很累，就想回家去，更不要说还要经常加班了。”至于健身，那得趁三五个同学都不出差，聚起来才能回学校打场篮球。张江的健身房年卡开价7000多元，“那是给住在汤臣的老板们准备的，跟我们普通员工无关。”而他晚上的娱乐通常是上网、看书、泡论坛。其实，小凡天文地理历史样样精通，他最爱去的论坛叫“祖国”，最关心的话题除了业界动态和技术问题，就是讨论国家大事。他的房间里，3台电脑无线上网，外加很多个硬盘，他擅长运用各种最新诞生的软件，比如可以看出对方是否屏蔽了自己，使用最新的动画插图聊天，比如MSN8.0。MSN上也挂着几个女孩，去年圣诞节前，小凡很想约一个出去吃饭，连续几天，插科打诨，东拉西扯，最后还是没有开口。12月24日那天晚上，他的MSN上不见一个女生。外面张灯结彩，小凡坐在家里，看了两集电视剧。
　　今年的圣诞节，小凡仍然找不到方向，园区bbs上号召大家参加相亲活动，他腼腆，不好意思参加。去年联系过的那个女孩已经有男朋友了，不过，每次她的电脑坏了，第一时间一定会向他求助。他耐心地帮人解答到半夜，下了线，依旧只能抱着寂寞入眠。

其实你不懂我的心

    戴眼镜，头顶永远有一撮头发翘着，羞怯地不爱说话，偶尔有说，也是跟你探讨国家大事或者业界动态……
    事实上，像这样的理工科男生不是没有，却远远不能涵盖他们的全部。与女孩子相处时，他们也许笨口拙舌，却拥有一颗最善良诚恳的心。在你意想不到的时候，他们会来一招浪漫得一塌糊涂的约会创意，迅速地击中你的心———而这样的创意甚至不是他们开动脑筋刻意扮演出来的，只是纯出自他们的本心。
    就像黄蓉觉得郭靖最感动她的时刻，在于背负巨大压力时仍坚决地说：我要和你
在一起。真正的浪漫，不是刻意拗出来的。 

　　实战恋爱绝对浪漫

　　小枫的女友告诉我们一个真实的故事。
　　他们是在学校里就开始恋爱的。
　　一天晚上，她睡不着觉，给他发了条消息。
　　“那你想干什么？”
　　“想……放风筝。”她随口说。
　　“都晚上1点了，到哪里放风筝？”
　　“不知道。”消息发完，她也自知胡闹，准备睡觉了。不料半小时后，收到一个短消息：“走，我们放风筝去。”
　　她出了门，他拽着上次去奉贤海边买的旧风筝，带她一路向外跑。
　　“去哪儿？”她问。来到了一栋教学楼，他带着她一路跑到屋顶，用钥匙开了门：“就在这里放风筝。”他说。
　　再转眼看她，早已泪流满面。
　　与小枫聊起这段故事，这个工科男生一字一句地说：“我不是个懂浪漫的人，只是女孩子时常会提一些连她们自己都觉得不可能实现的想法，但你不能听过就算了，努力地去实现它，她们一定会很感动。

　　女友说编个机器人说情话

　　当年，BF在大学里读的是数学系，沉默、内向、聪明但不外露，标标准准一个理科男！
　　和这样的男友在一起，甜言蜜语是没得听了，你要是嗔怪他：“你怎么从来不说你爱我？”他会挠挠头“哦，我爱你。”
　　没有情书，没有煽情的短信，文科男生所有的浪漫他都没有，他只会在你生日时送上一个据说是业内公认“性价比最高”的U盘，或者第一时间买上一个大容量的IPOD，但是，不论是U盘还是IPOD，绝对是颜色最难看的一款———在他们眼里，性价比是第一位的，其他无所谓。

　　有一次，和他闹了别扭，晚上在MSN上相遇，他也不来道歉，而是在对话框里拉进个机器人。机器人会唱歌，还会喊我的名字，末了要和我玩猜数字游戏，“请在0到9中任意选择一个数字，猜对得分。”　　我被弄得哭笑不得，他倒来了劲，见我不理会猜数字机器人，又编了个猜字母机器人，一个接一个———对他来说，写程序远比哄女朋友来得简单。　　

当然啦，理工科男生的优点也是多多：会赚钱，不乱花钱。男友办公室里，大多数人只知道“班尼路”这个“名牌”，惟一一个喜欢看时尚杂志的，会被视为异类。他们的想法是：“女孩子穿得漂亮点是应该的，男人哪来那么多讲究！”

Last week, I wrote a controversial article about resume tips by my several years experience that got a lot of friends fired up. As a result, I thought it would be worthwhile to go through the entire process of creating a strong resume, step by step.

Step 0: Do NOT fire up Microsoft Word and use a generic resume template.

Absolutely, positively, do NOT do this, no matter what. Microsoft Word is a powerful program, but just firing it up and opening up one of the included resume templates does one thing and one thing alone - make your resume look like everyone else’s. You want your resume to look unique and memorable, but classy - Word’s default templates will not cut the mustard.

Step 1: Open a plain text document and start listing all of the information you might ever include on a resume

List the details of every job, including every possible relevant accomplishment at each one. List every organized activity you’ve ever participated in, and every noteworthy honor you’ve received in your life. List everything.

Tip #1: If you don’t know where to start, include the following in this order:

Work experience (dates, names of employers, location, tasks, accomplishments)
Education (dates, degrees obtained, location)
Specific skills
Honors and awards
Other activities of note (professional organizations, special skills, etc.)

This is essentially your “default resume.” You’re never going to send it to anyone. Instead, you’re going to use it to quickly build the real resumes that you will send to potential employers.

Step 2: Read and research the job you’re interested in applying for

Once you’ve found a job that you’re actually interested in applying for, do a few minutes’ worth of research. Find out as much as you can quickly about the job itself and the employer. If you don’t understand fully what you’re applying for and who your employer is going to be, you’re essentially tossing things at the wall and hoping it will stick.

Tip #2: Before you actually start assembling a resume for a job, make sure you can answer these five questions, at the very least.

What is the likely primary function of the job? What are you being hired to do? This isn’t your job title, but what you will actually be doing.
What is the organization that I’m applying to? Sure, you know the name of the organization, but what is that organization’s function? Do they produce certain products? Do they provide certain services?
What is the reputation of this organization? Applying to Google and to “Joe’s Desperate Search Engine” are two completely different things, even though the jobs may appear very similar on paper. Joe is probably seeking a programmer with very specific skills, while Google is looking for people who exhibit exceptional problem solving skills.
What is my role within this organization? If you accept this job, what will your role be? Will you be working on developing the product directly, or will you be providing services to the public? Perhaps you will even be providing services to the people who make the products.
What skills and attributes point to success with this specific organization in the role I’m going to fill? Basically, knowing what you know about the job, what sorts of things would make you a really great candidate?

Step 3: Open a new copy of your default resume and eliminate everything that isn’t highly relevant or impressive

Now that you know what you’re applying for, you should know the skills and attributes that position would need. Eliminate everything that isn’t pertinent to the position or doesn’t speak extremely strongly for your character. If you’re applying for a job as an administrative assistant, your position as a typist is probably very relevant - but if you’re seeking work as a manager of a department store, it basically just fills out your work history. Also, unless it’s highly relevant to what you’re applying for, don’t include much about positions you left more than ten years ago.

Tip #3: If you’re early in your career, you may wish to list some jobs that don’t match the description very well to establish a work history. That’s fine, but go minimal on describing them.

What you have now is the information you want to put on the resume. Now, let’s polish it up a bit.

Step 4: Make your accomplishments ring with action

Now it’s time to polish up the statements about what you’ve done, focusing on two things: language that indicates that you’ve performed an action, and selection and modification of these statements to appeal to the organization.

First, go through and change all of the descriptions of your work tasks into action sentences. Let’s work through three examples of this.

Bad job attribute: Participated in the development of a data entry program
Better job attribute: Developed a high-throughput data entry program in a team-based environment

Bad job attribute: Chaired three committees
Better job attribute: Led the creation of new company-wide policies

Bad job attribute: Introduced a new filing system and helped set it up
Better job attribute: Implemented a new document organization system

In each case, the move was towards verbs that indicate more decisive action that led to a desired result. Employers want actions that lead to results, not participation.

Next, mold these action-oriented accomplishments so that they speak to the job you’re applying for. Let’s look at that data entry program developer. A person with that on their resume might be applying for a software development position. In that case, one might want to highlight the code-based accomplishment:

Great job attribute: Wrote 22,000 lines of Java for a data-handling class for a high-throughput data-entry tool

On the other hand, if you’re looking for a leadership job, you may want something like this:

Great job attribute: Led a team of seven to develop a high-throughput data entry program

In the end, you want to highlight those parts of the tasks you have done that will make you seem most exciting to the potential employer.

Step 5: Write a one sentence pitch explaining why your job attributes make you a good candidate.

Your resume should not have an objective on it. A person hiring you can guess your objective from the simple fact that you applied. Instead, you should have a statement explaining how your specific skills make you the right person for the job. Here’s a good example.

I have nine years experience developing high-throughput Java-based data entry software and leading teams in the implementation of this software.

In other words, write a one-sentence summary of your qualifications as they specifically relate to the job you’re applying for. This will go right at the top of the resume.

Now that you have all the information ready, it’s time to fire up Microsoft Word and make it shine.

Step 6: Make a polished document out of the material you’ve created

There are several useful tutorials for just this task. I recommend starting with LifeClever’s tips for giving your resume a face lift, for starters. I strongly recommend using Georgia as your font, as it is fairly distinctive while still quite legible in print, and I also recommend making your line spacing 120% (go to Format, choose Paragraph, choose Multiple, and set it to 1.2).

I also recommend putting things in the following order:

Name/address/phone/email
Summary of Qualifications
Work Experience (unless this is your first “real” job)
Professional Organizations (unless these are slim, the eliminate or move to end)
Honors (unless these are slim, then eliminate or move to end)
Education
A note indicating that references are available upon request

Ideally, you want this to be as short as possible. One page, with an additional cover letter, is best. If you feel the need to include more stuff, feel free, but every time you add something more to the resume, you provide more and more cover for your truly excellent attributes to hide in a sea of merely good attributes. One strong approach is to create a short resume and a long resume, and include a short URL (made at TinyURL) to download the longer one if interested. I generally encourage people to include reference contact information in their long resume, but not in the short one.

One last thing…

Remember, always, that you’re trying to sell yourself to the company. Think of yourself as a product on the shelf, next to many competitors. How are you going to grab their attention in a positive way, show off your best attributes, and make them at least consider buying you (i.e., interview you)? Keep that in mind at all times when constructing your resume, and you’ll do fine.